Thursday, July 28, 2011

What I Want to See in Porn

I like to watch porn, a lot of it. Granted it’s not as much as I used to watch (because I’m friends with so many people and can’t watch them bang anymore on camera) but I still love me some dirty fucking on film. But I also have an issue with how people like to categorize porn for women. It is such a tiny category and directed at such a limited audience. It’s always romance and soft and sweet, well for me I say screw that.

I hate all movies that usually fall under the porn for women category. Sure sometimes the stories are nice and try to be funny and sometimes entertaining, but majority of the time I am bored. But what I really get bored with is the sex. The soft sweet and simple sex I see on camera, that’s not what I want to see at all. I want hardcore fucking. Watching people have sweet sex doesn’t turn me on. Sure I love to have slow and loving sex with Brian sometimes which obviously turns me on but I don’t care to watch it on screen.

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Now I am not saying there aren’t women out there who don’t like the typical porn movies made for women. What I can’t stand is how people complain there is nothing out there for a woman to watch and enjoy and that it is all geared towards men. Yeah most of it is geared towards men but who is to say that women aren’t into it also. First of all women don’t all want the same thing so you can’t target all of them with one movie. Yes a lot of women want a story and some substance but other want to get right to the action. They don’t want bad acting and stupid story lines they want hardcore fucking. Depending on what kind of mood I’m in determines what kind of porn I like. Just like they target movies to different types of men they need to target different types of women. Today it’s more about targeting anyone who likes a particular style not just men or women.

I want the choking, slapping, spitting and roughness. I want to watch two hot sweaty bodies of people who are really into each other completely devouring each other. I want real sex. I don’t need a story to like porn; I want to see the fucking. I think the porn for women category needs to open up more. Do a dirty hardcore fucking film with all really hot guys and girls that women can relate to. Maybe have a story or maybe not or do both. I worked in sex store for a long time selling DVDs to women and have a lot of girl friends who watch porn; I know I am not alone in my thinking. A lot of girls like hardcore.

One thing all women can agree on is thank god there are better looking men in porn then there used to be. I can’t watch a scene if I think the guy is ugly; I will skip right through it. I know a lot of other women who are like that too. Yeah not every woman likes the same type of guy but we all don’t like ugly ones. There are some extremely hot guys now in porn. Lucky me I actually know most of them now, including snagging one for my boyfriend.

I all I want is the porn for women category to open up and be more adventurous. I believe it might be starting to but nothing has really caught my attention yet. For now I will stick to the studios I know I like and who use hot men. It’s been working so far for me.


Friday, July 1, 2011

Watching Porn and Relationships

There have been many studies done on how porn can affect a relationship. The only ones I have read talk about the negative effects it has - how porn can destroy a relationship and tear people apart. I have never seen anything done on the positive effects it can have on a relationship.

I can agree that in some instances porn can be harmful to a relationship, but I equal it to someone who has a problem with alcohol or drugs or even someone who works too much. There are many types of excess in the world that can harm a relationship and porn is always made an example because of its subject matter. Sure there are many websites about how porn destroys people and has caused so many breakups. But where are the websites about how someone being a workaholic can destroy a relationship, or someone who is obsessed with video games? I just hate how porn gets singled out as the most scandalous thing to harm a relationship.

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But porn can do damage to a relationship. There are many extremes to how bad it can get including porn addiction which can be very destructive. But usually there are more deep-rooted issues and the porn is just what the outside world sees as the culprit. Porn is just aiding the issue, but isn’t real issue that needs to be fixed.

You should be careful how much you let porn infiltrate your real life lovemaking. It’s never good when you compare your partner to the person that you are seeing on the screen. It may make them feel uncomfortable and insecure. If you say something like “why can’t you be more like so and so?” you might get smacked up side the head!

One negative side effect of porn is that sometimes people believe everything that happens in porn should happen in real life - that porn is the only way one should have sex. If you read my piece “I Am Not A Porn Star” you will know what I am talking about. I feel there are two sides to learning from porn. I have learned so many fun new things to try out with my boyfriend from watching porn - it has really opened up my eyes to new things I might like and would really be into. But I also remember that not everyone will be into that. When you start pressuring your partner to try something you saw in the movies or believe that whatever happens on the screen is what everyone wants you may run into some roadblocks.

Porn can make someone more adventurous. It can open your eyes to all sorts of new moves and tricks. Lots of times I have helped couples pick out a porn movie to spice things up. They want to try something new to liven up their boring sex life. Why not watch a porn movie where all sorts of fun stuff happens? They might see something they had never thought of and open up a whole new world for their sex lives. They might be freakier than they thought.

It can also help introduce toys into a relationship. Not all couples know how to use a sex toy together. There are so many things you can do with sex toys and sex, but hey, not everyone is as creative as me. People need some visual aid sometimes and by watching a movie that has toys in it, they can learn how to add some extra fun to their sexy times. Particularly with guys who don’t want to use toys, porn can show them how it works, helping them become more open to the idea.

No matter what your age and experience, people still need to learn how to do certain things, and there are many educational porn movies out there. There aren’t really a lot of sex classes available, but one can now watch a “How To” movie about different sexual techniques and ideas. You can learn all about blow jobs and positions and how to make a girl squirt. You can watch in the comfort of your own home and become an expert.

Porn lets someone live out his or her fantasy. They can see what they most desire on screen. Now this can be done together or alone. It’s been said by watching porn people can live out their fantasies and not have to stray from the relationship. They don’t need to leave home to find what they really want when they are not getting it with their partner. Maybe they are too scared to share what they like and only want to do it alone. By watching porn they can do that without looking for another person. But it can also help a person share his or her fantasies with their partner. By showing other people experiencing it, it might make the other party more comfortable in trying it out.

In the end it just matters what you and your partner think of porn. Thankfully my boyfriend loves watching porn as much as I do! If you aren’t sure, talk to the other person. You may be surprised at what you find out!


Monday, June 27, 2011

Budding Bliss Review

Vibratex always puts out quality toys and this one is no different. The Budding Bliss and I are now friends. First of all the toy just looks pretty, I really like the rose on the clitoral piece of the toy. It's made of silicone and feels awesome. Silicone can have many different feelings and the feeling this one has is a very silky smooth feeling. It's so soft I would make sheets for my bed out of it.

The head of the toy is nice because it hits the g spot when inside which always feels really great. You can also control the shaft and clitoral piece independently so you can change things up a bit. It's splash proof to make clean up easy and should be used with a water based lube.

I did really enjoy this toy. Internally it felt really great and hit my g spot. The clitoral piece didn't completely sell me. It was very strong and felt great but didn't sit quite right on my clitoral area. But that's just my body so it may very well fit someone else much better. So while I think it is a great toy, the one part of it just didn't really work for me. But I totally recommend this toy to anyone who thinks they may be in the market for a dual vibe!

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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

The Two Review

I really like the concept of the company this toy came from, Wet For Her. It's a lesbian company making toys designed for lesbians. Trying to stay in tuned with a woman's body when they design the toys. The Two is 100% silicone and phthalate free which is great. Silicone harbors no bacteria and is non-porous. It holds body temperature well and won't deteriorate over time like most other materials might.

With all those great aspects being said I did not like this toy, it did not work for me. I figured it would be great to use on my own to extend my fingers and really hit my g spot. That was not really the case. The toy was not stiff enough to put pressure where I wanted it, it just bent back. It was just kind of awkward to use. I can only think the same would happen if someone else was using it on me. I don't really know if this would work for other people but I am not convinced with it.

I also felt kind of like a Muppet when I put it on my fingers. Once I realized that I really couldn't take the toy seriously. All in all this toy just did nothing for me. Like I said I like the concept but performance wise it fell short.

I actually gave it to my puppy Boba Fett as a new chew toy. He thinks it's great and plays with it all the time now. The material is super durable so he hasn't chewed through it yet. It's pretty funny watching him run around my apartment with it in his mouth. At least this toy will get some use around my house.

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Monday, June 20, 2011

The Crystal Frost Plug Review

The minute I saw this line of toys from Crystal Delights I knew I had to have one. I was at the Lingerie show in Vegas and stumbled upon the toys at a booth. It was love at first sight. I was so excited when I got one in the mail. I couldn't wait to try it out.

These plugs are so beautiful I almost want to leave them out for display, no big deal just decorating my coffee table with butt plugs that sparkle. They are made out of medical grade pyrex glass, I only use glass toys that are made of this. Each plug has a big Swarovski crystal on the bottom. I have always wanted a jeweled butt plug, to use for special occasions of course. The great thing about glass is how smooth and slick it is, especially when you use it with lube. Glides in and out so easily. These come with a great velvet pouch to store them in also.

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Usually with plugs I use them to stretch and get ready for anal sex, but this plug deserves more than just that. This is a plug to have on display in my booty when having sex. So that was just what I was going to use it for. Brian wasn't home when I decided to use it but I knew he would be home soon. He typically is excited when he comes home to me with playing with toys waiting for him. So I lubed it up and put it into place. I used my new cooling lube which made my booty all tingly and cool, it was pretty awesome.

I twittered about using the plug hoping Brian would see it before he got home and he would know what he was in for. Of course he did, so when he got home he came up behind me and felt the plug. My response was "You want to go for a treasure hunt?" Get it, jeweled plug and treasure hunt.....yeah I am clever.

Next thing you know the sex is happening. The great thing about having a plug in when having sex is sometimes the guys can feel the plug through the vaginal wall for added stimulation. We started out with Brian on top and it was feeling pretty awesome. Then I wanted to move into doggie for visual effects since the plug was in. While it felt really good, with the size of the base of the plug and how I am built, Brians penis kept sliding against it. That wasn't the most pleasant feeling so we switched back to him on top. That way worked out much better.

Overall this plag is pretty amazing and I would recommend it to anyone. These little babies are great. I want to wear them for all special occasions. Plus they sparkle, and we all know how I like things that sparkle.


Friday, May 27, 2011


*Before you read this you should know in no way is this a personal stab at my relationship with Brian. This is about all my past relationships and honesty in general.

There are many things you need in a relationship to make it work. One of the most important things is honesty. Honesty to me can make or break a relationship. It can bring out the best in people and it can bring out the worst. Honesty can change your opinion of someone in a matter of seconds. To me, without honesty in a relationship you will never last.

Honesty in my past relationships have been shitty. I have been hurt and lied to way too many times. I have been lied to about cheating and lied to about drugs, to mention a few, but those are the big ones. I was not getting honest answers to my questions about these matters when I asked. All I wanted was the truth. It’s frustrating when you asking someone for the answer and you already know the truth and they lie to you.

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My mistake was believing after them being honest with me that they would continue being honest. But that was never the case. Again I would be lied to and hurt. After awhile you finally learn it will never end and change and move on. Because of my past relationships it is hard for me to trust someone again after they have hurt me. It takes a really long time for that trust to be restored. I believe because of what has happened in the past that it will happen again.

It’s really hard when someone has lied a few times about the same thing or wasn’t completely honest over and over. So if before you told me you were going to be honest from now on and then surprise surprise you lied, how am I supposed to believe you this time when you say you are going to be honest from now on? It fucks with my mind and that’s not the way to get me to trust you. You can’t get mad at me when I question things and have doubts; you only have yourself to blame.

The reality is I would rather someone be honest with me and hurt me than lie to me. You are only hurting me more by not being honest. Let me decide what I want to do with the information, don’t you decide for me. It’s even worse if you are dishonest with me about something and I soon find out on my own the truth, then I am hurt even more. Shit doesn’t stay hidden no matter how hard you try. The truth comes out eventually.

For me it seems every relationship I fall into I have issues with honesty. Whether it’s not happening when it should be or I am not sure if I believe what is going on is honest. But I am always honest with the people that I love. I give them that respect because I expect and deserve the same behavior. Don’t make promises about this to make me happy if you don’t expect to keep them, which only causes more hurt.

Relationships can be tough. Every day they are growing and changing, sometimes good and sometimes bad. But I fully believe to make it and have a strong bond there needs to be complete honesty. I am always completely honest with my now boyfriend, I only hope he does the same. We always tell each other everything and what’s going on in our lives.

I don’t know how some people do it. If I were not truthful to someone I loved it would eat me alive. I would feel awful. I don’t care what it is about; knowing that I was hurting someone I love would make me sick inside.

My advice is to just lay everything on the table, good or bad. You don’t know how the other person may react. They may think your thoughts and ideas are something they want to partake in. But don’t ever keep them from your partner that does no good. Whatever the matter is just put it out there. In the end honesty may make or break any relationship.


Monday, May 2, 2011

It's Not Always Easy

I have become an expert at putting on a happy face and pretending that everything is ok. That is not to say I am not happy in life and things are going well. I am working at my dream job, in a relationship with the most amazing man, have the cutest puppy and my life is pretty amazing. But there are times when I do put on that face and I don’t let people see the negative behind the scenes.

My boyfriend does porn. This is no surprise to anyone in my life, I don’t hide it. I am not ashamed of him for it or love him any less. He is the most wonderful man I know and I am truly lucky to have him in my life. I knew the situation when we started dating; it was because of porn we met. I knew I could handle the situation and we talked about it and how things would work. It is not a career choice for him; he has a regular 9-5 job that he plans to make a career out of. It is just a hobby.

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I get asked all the time how it is to be in a situation like this. How do I handle it and do I get jealous. The questions never end. Honestly it can get annoying being asked so many times about it. But I always answer with a smile on my face and tell them it’s not a big deal and it is only work. That it never bothers me. When they truth is yes it sometimes can bother me, I am only human. When it comes down to it, a lot of it has to do with my own insecurities.

In the beginning when we started dating and it wasn’t serious yet it was super easy to handle. But then you fall in love with someone. You move in with each other and talk future and marriage and a family. You start to think about your life and how you are more invested in this person. There is more to lose then there was before.

90% of the time dealing with it is a piece of cake. But like I said sometimes it can be hard and it gets to me. It’s hard to work in this business and not compare yourself to all the girls; that can be really hard on a girl’s self-esteem. When he goes to work with some of these girls I get self-conscious and think in the back of my head what happens if he likes her better than me. What if she is prettier and in better shape? There are many girls out there who are physically better than me and he works with them on set.

I have also dealt with girls not respecting the fact that he has a girlfriend he goes home to. I know he flirts with girls; I flirt with guys sometimes too. But sometimes girls don’t take it just as flirting and want to try stuff. Or they completely know about me and have met me and don’t care. I have no respect for women like that. If we had an open relationship that would be on thing but we don’t. Really ladies, how many naked pictures must you send my boyfriend? You aren’t going to get anywhere with it. I see them when they pop up on his phone when he gets them, doesn’t make a girl feel good. Some of the things I have heard girls say to him I would never even think about saying to someone who had a girlfriend. To me that totally crosses a line. Maybe my morals are just different.

I try not to think about it. I don’t watch his scenes or anything like that. He knows not to put it in my face; he is very respectful about that. I will ask him how his day was and how things went. He doesn’t give me details, which is fine by me because I don’t want to know. I have and always will be supportive of what he wants to do. As long as he wants to do porn I will support him.

For the record I do not hate the fact that Brian does porn. If he never did porn we would have never met. I would never demand him to stop doing it. I am not that type of person; he can do what he wants with his life. I will never love him any less for it. We are perfectly fine as a couple and this would never end us. I still think of it as only work for him and so does he. Most of the time I hardly think about it. But I won’t lie that sometimes it can be hard on me.

In the end I know he loves me and he tells me all the time. He tells me I am the only one for him and that will never change. I know this is true and I need to get over my fears but it is not something that happens overnight. He knows on days that he does scenes I might need an extra kiss or an extra “I love you.” He can tell on the days that it bugs me and gets to me. I have always been very self-conscious and I am working on it. But in the end, none of it all really matters to me. All that matters is I continue to have this wonderful man in my life that is meant for me in every way.


Monday, April 25, 2011

I Am Not A Porn Star

I am not a porn star and I never will be. The majority of the women out there are also not and will never be in porn. In society these days it is not uncommon for some men to assume the women that they sleep with and have relationships with are going to act like porn stars. They think they we will do all the things they see on camera, and say the same things and groom the same way. They think porn is real life.

The reality is that porn is fantasy. Not that it’s bad or wrong. It’s not always what happens in real life. And it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. It should not dictate how you make love. I will admit there have been some things I have seen on screen and really wanted to try out and think would be really fun. But never have I expected my partner to want to do it. Everyone has different likes and dislikes. Just because you like something and majority of people also do doesn’t mean the person in your bed agrees.

In no way am I saying don’t mimic anything you see in porn. Like I said before I have seen things I wanted to try out. What I am saying is please never assume I will do everything you see porn girls do. In particular there are a few things I always hear people talking about they don’t want to do, but men assume they will because they see it on camera.

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Please don’t cum on my face. I am seriously not a big fan of it. Mainly more for inconvenience than not really liking it. It is such a pain to clean up if it is all over your face and it messes up your make up. Sometimes you are not always in a situation where you can fix everything up right after. Some girls love having guys cum all over their faces; good for them. It is not my thing. I have only ever let one man cum on my face and that is my current boyfriend and it has only happened once or twice. He knows I am not a fan so he never assumes I will do it.

Thank god bush is making a comeback. Personally for me if I have nothing down there I feel like a child and it makes me uncomfortable. Thankfully also my boyfriend is a big fan of bush. But until recently girls in porn always were completely bare down there. I knew guys who would say they were grossed out by any pubic hair because of what they have seen in the movies. Sure sometimes if there is a full on bush and no grooming what so ever it can be a bit much. But if there is a good sized landing strip and everything else is smooth what is the big deal? Don’t expect the vagina always to be bare when you and it first meet.

Not everyone likes anal. I however do like anal but it is not for everyone. I like to say don’t knock it until you try it but some have tried and they aren’t into it. Don’t force the subject if the other party isn’t down. Going along with that, saliva does not equal lube. Especially for anal! There is really no natural lubrication in the anus so you always need to have lube. I always use lube when playing around back there. I don’t want to hurt myself and tear anything. ALWAYS USE LUBE FOR BUTT SEX! And only do butt sex if the other person agrees.

A few other things; not all girls want to have sex with other girls and have threesomes, not all girls like to be choked and slapped, not all girls love mouth fucking and not all girls cum from only internal stimulation.

But not only do guys always assume things when they watch porn; girls will too. Most guys do not last as long as they do on screen. Trust me, there are a whole of other things going on while on set and it appears they go longer. Trust me I know, my boyfriend does porn and sex at home is so completely different than it is on screen. So ladies don’t assume anything about the men folk either.

In the end I would just like people to realize that everyone is different and wants different things. Please don’t let porn dictate how you are having sex. Sure you can learn new fun tricks and you might find things that you want to try but it is not reality and it is not the only way to do it.


Thursday, April 21, 2011

Hitachi Magic Wand Review

Way back when I first started my site I talked about the Hitachi Magic wand and how I really wanted one. Well that magical day has finally come and I finally am the proud owner of my own wand. It was a very happy day and when the package came in the mail Brian said his boyfriend duties just got a lot easier. Little did he know I was going to be using it on him too, you know what I mean.

For those of you that live under a rock and don't know what a Hitachi Magic wand is then you are missing out. In the real world it is just a back massager. But those who know better know all the other wonderful things you can do with it. Now don't get me wrong, it makes a fantastic back massager. But since it's debut women have been using this wand as a first rate vibrator.

It plugs into the wall so never have to worry about grabbing batteries or recharging. This thing has some power, and I just don't mean regular power, I mean some crazy strong power. It has two speeds of 6000 and 5000 rpm, yes please! Plus there is even a one year warranty. Hopefully I don't burn this thing out in a year and need to use it. But hey you never know, my vagina is rather demanding.

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I was a little scared to use the wand. Everyone kept telling me it will change my life and I will love it. I was afraid if I used the wand a lot I would get used to the super powerful vibe and not be able to use anything else to get off. On a daily basis I use all sorts of vibrators with different speeds and levels of power but nothing to the extent of the power of the wand. I didn't want to vibrate my clit numb. Now I know that really isn't possible but still!

A lot of people were surprised I didn't already have one. You would think someone who does what I do would have all the important sex toy elements. But I am still building my collection to this day. But I am stoked this wand is now part of the collection.

The first thing that happened when I opened my magic wand was Brian wanted a back massage with it. So we went back and forth using the wand on each others backs. Well it was really more me using it on Brian and then using it on my own back. This happened a few times before it was put to real use.

My first experience with the wand was by myself. Even though there were two speeds I automatically put the wand on the highest speed. The minute it hit my clit I started to feel things. The power was really awesome. The funny thing was how I orgasmed. I figured with something of that power I would orgasm a lot faster than normal. But to my surprise it took me the same amount of time to reach orgasm. The difference in my orgasm was how strong it was. With the wand my clitoral orgasm was much more powerful then it usually is when I use a vibrator. It was pretty sweet.

The next time I used the wand I had some help. I told Brian I would be in the bedroom if he needed me, he always knows what that means. A few minutes after playing with myself he came in with his normal devilish grin he has on his face when he catches me masturbating. In no time his pants were off and his penis was out. I went to put it away but he stopped me and wanted to use it on me.

I had other plans. I decided to use it on him. I took the wand and while I was giving Brian a blowjob I put the wand on his perineum. It was a little strange for me only because the wand is so powerful it was making his penis vibrate as I was sucking on it. Which realistically means I could turn his penis into a vibrating penis to have sex with, must remember for next time.

Brian won't always admit it but he is a fan of me playing around down there. He was a big fan of having the Hitachi down there on his perineum. In his words, "It was pretty rad!" I am going to have to use it on him more often.

In the end I highly recommend the Hitachi magic wand to anyone and everyone. It has stayed plugged in next to my bed since I got it!


Thursday, April 14, 2011


Sex sells, this is not a surprise to anyone. Not only in terms of selling products but also in terms of selling/branding yourself. Over the past few years I have branded myself as a sex blogger. In many situations sex bloggers will keep themselves private and hidden behind their words, even using fake names. This is to keep their real identity a secret; you never know who might stumble upon your writing. When I started blogging I didn’t really care who knew what I did, I use my real name and it’s always me in my pictures. Throughout the years as I got recognized as a writer I also got sexualized.

This is actually a debate I have had with family members and friends many times since I have started. When I was a little girl I was taught that it is a bad thing to let men sexualize you and only see you as a sexual object. That if men do see you like that they have no respect for you. Even today from people I am told the same thing. I shouldn’t put myself out there as a sex object and I should be ashamed if I do and if I do then I have no respect for myself.

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If some guy or girl wants to look at me as a sex object than I have no problem with that. Sexualize me all you want, I have no one else but myself to blame for it. I am the one that put me out in the world in that manner. I openly talk about my sex life and have done nude modeling. I am all out there for the world to see. One of the reasons I put my physical self out there is because I knew it would broaden my audience of readers, and it has.

I have the utmost respect for myself. Just because I don’t mind if some guy thinks of me as a sex object doesn’t mean I don’t know my self-worth. I take it as a compliment when people praise my sexualness. I have gotten quite a few messages from guys and girls telling me I was their masturbation material for that evening. Someone once told me I should be disgusted when I hear things like that. In reality it makes me smile and giggle. It’s nice to know I have that power with my body. I get letters from women saying they wish they could be as open and out there like I am and that I should be proud of it.

It’s not a bad thing to be sexualized by someone. If someone does it in a manner you personally think is degrading than I agree in that instance it’s not appropriate. But what is degrading and crossing the line for some people might be perfectly fine for someone else. I am simply saying for myself I have no issue with it and if you too have no issue with it then there is nothing wrong with that. Don’t let other people’s beliefs that are different than your own make you feel bad about the decisions you have made.

In the end all I am really saying is don’t feel bad for being portrayed as a sexual being if you yourself see nothing wrong with it. Embrace it and feel proud. Sexualize me all you want, I have no issue with it. I also have no issue using the fact that people sexualize me to further myself and my writing and gain more exposure. When it comes down to it who is going to get more readers, the writer who is anonymous or the writer who is a bit more out there and risqué? In no way am I hurting myself or disrespecting myself, I am just being myself.


Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Sexual Experiment

I have decided to give myself a little sexual homework assignment. It came to me while I was masturbating one day, it’s when I do my best thinking. Lately when I have been masturbating I like to put on some background music. I can go for quite some time while having me time, so I usually hear quite a few songs in the process. Well I began to notice that even while I had my music on shuffle the same song kept popping up. This for a while didn’t really mean anything to me, until my great idea came to me, and then I came.

A few years ago I read this article that really interested me and I didn't believe it could be true. It was about this girl who gave herself a challenge. She decided she was only going to masturbate to one song and only one song. Just put it on repeat and go to town for as long as she wanted. Now the goal of this challenge was to see if she could train herself to get to a point that just hearing the song would get her all hot and heavy and cause her to orgasm without doing anything. Basically a naughtier version of Pavlov’s theory.

I am not sure how long she conducted this experiment but I know in the end it pretty much worked. I think she was in the car with friends when she heard the song and things started to happen. Which sounds like a pretty awesome experiment if you ask me.

I am still debating on which song I should use as my inspiration. I am thinking it should be an upbeat song one would dance to. Something that when I hear it, it makes me happy, and hopefully will make me super happy if this thing works out. Of course if it does work out I will be doomed every time I hear it no matter where I am.
Guess this means I better get cracking at rubbing one out to only one song. I think if I do it daily I should be on the right track to making it work. I mean I already pretty much do it daily (on top of all the sex) so I might as well add a sound track too it. Maybe I should even play the song when Brian and I are having sex…….

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Monday, February 21, 2011

Squirt, There It Is!

Squirting is awesome! The day I found out that my body could do this glorious act, sex was never the same. I had always known about it and of course had seen it happen in movies. But until I had actually experienced it I didn’t think it was that big of a deal.

Squirting is the more commonly known term for female ejaculation. When a lady ejaculates a clear watery fluid comes out of her urethra. No you are not peeing, which is what a lot of people think it actually is. Typically a woman will squirt when she has g spot stimulation. This is because the g spot, when stimulated, activates the production of the ejaculate by the paraurethral glands. If you are worried about peeing you should empty your bladder beforehand.

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It does feel like you have to pee at first, but trust me it is not pee. Before I knew what was going on in my body I thought I was going to pee so I tensed up. But thanks to my sexual adventures and gaining of sexual knowledge I learned what that feeling really was. You need to relax and push past that feeling. If you have emptied your bladder beforehand then you don’t need to worry about peeing by mistake.

Getting in touch with your PC muscles plays a big part in helping one ejaculate. You can do PC muscle exercises to strengthen them. Knowing how they work with your body and when they are tight or relaxed will help you when it comes time to ejaculate. A lot of times I find myself having the feeling of wanting to squirt but if my muscles are all tense it won’t happen. I have learned to relax down there and contract my muscles letting the ejaculate flow, sometimes gush, out.

Many women think when you orgasm you should ejaculate. Therefore when nothing comes out and they orgasm they think it isn’t real. A lot of women also have trouble finding their g spot, which is turn, makes it hard for them to squirt. Every woman has the tools to learn how to squirt but it can be difficult for some to do.

Brian has become a master at making me squirt. The first time he did it he was so excited and proud of himself. I had only really squirted once before Brian, now because of Brian I am squirting all the time. He knows exactly what position to put me in where his penis hits my g spot directly. It helps that his penis curves to the left which makes it perfect for g spot. The minute I get on top of him and assume the position, it is only a matter of time before the squirting begins. We have also discovered I squirt a lot quicker if he fingers me and stimulates my g spot that way beforehand.

The amount of ejaculate that comes out is always what baffles people too. Not everyone is going to have the same amount of ejaculate come out. It is different for me every time. There have been moments where just a small amount comes out. There have also been moments where it looks like I have wet the bed. Brian has said he saw it gush out of me and in his words, “It was Rad!” That is also another reason people think it is fake. Because they see all this liquid come out of a woman and it seems like too much to be real. But trust me, it is.

I once hit Brian in the eye with squirt. Now it didn’t shoot out of me and hit him. But there was so much coming out of me and all over his stomach that when my body came down as I was bouncing on him it hit some and sent it to his eye. He thought it was pretty cool. It delights me to know how excited and happy he gets with himself when I squirt.

The feeling I have when I squirt is literally all over my body. My squirting usually happens when I orgasm. Because of all that is happening my orgasms then tend to be so intense and mind blowing. I am pretty much yelling and screaming. Sometimes I can’t even express myself with words and I just hit the bed or Brian’s leg trying to express something. For me it is much more intense than just a clitoral orgasm. When I am done I usually just collapse on top of Brian and can’t move for a minute. And my vagina stays all tingly after, it’s a wonderful thing.

So if you have experienced the magic that is squirting then congratulations. For those of you that haven’t don’t worry if you haven’t yet and you really want to. Work on it and practice and you may achieve your goal. I myself like to practice every day!


Monday, February 14, 2011

Toy Box Essentials

One of the greatest things about having my own site is all the toys I get to test out. I have probably tried a few hundred sex toys by now, and I am not slowing down anytime soon. People always wonder what my toy box looks like. Well to be honest it’s not really a box but an entire night stand next to my bed full of stuff. I don’t keep everything I try, only the ones I really like and will use on a regular basis. But if you want to have the perfect toy box there are a few staple items that you should have. Over the years I have built my perfect toy box.

I was 23 when purchased my first toy and started masturbating. People are always amazed when they hear I didn’t start until then. But let me tell you, I have totally made up for lost time. In the past 4 years I have probably masturbated more than some people do in their life time. And here are the tools of my sexual adventures.

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Clit Vibe: The very first vibrator I purchased is still the one I use all the time. It is super strong and snuggles right into my clit so wonderfully. It can get me off in about 30 seconds. It is made of platinum silicone and is rechargeable.

• Dual Vibe: I love me some dual stimulation. Mine is great. The clit piece is really strong. The pearls are on a track so they move in a continuous circle and don’t stop when my muscles contract. I can also bend the shaft slightly so it hits my g spot. I have another one too that is rechargeable and made for g spot and clit, so awesome.

• Butt Plug: I have the best silicone butt plug. It is perfect for my booty. Great to have to warm up before some anal sex action. I also have another one that can vibrate.

Lube: It’s not something I use often but is definitely good to have. I have a water base one and a silicone one. I like to use the water base on my vagina and the silicone when I’m doing anal.

• Glass: I have multiple glass toys. Not for everyone because some people don’t like hard toys. My favorites are the g spot ones because you can put a lot of pressure on the area. I also have glass anal toys. Smooth ones and ones with bulbs on it, you never know what kind of anal mood I will be in.

Vibrating Panties: So much fun to wear out in public. Mine are great because the panties are black lace and very nice. They also have a wireless remote which is key.

• Dildo: I have a few dildos; all of mine are made with platinum silicone. Some have a realistic feel to them which is always nice. One has a suction bottom and I can put it on the wall. Dildos are fun to use to DP yourself when having sex. My boyfriend loves that.

Surgical Steel: There are a few of these at my house. On the same par as glass. Love them.

Vibrating Cock Rings: I don’t use them that often but they are fun to have and use from time to time.

Vibrating Rubber Duckie: Bath time is that much more fun!

Handcuffs: Mine have rhinestones on them.

That pretty much sums up my favorites and what I always have around. I never know what mood I may be in and what kind of toy I want to play with or use with my boyfriend. It is always good to be prepared for every situation. I believe I am prepared for a plethora of sexual situations.


Friday, February 4, 2011

Candy Cane Glass Dildo

I feel bad because it has taken me so long to review this toy; I even have 2 more from this company! But it has been a busy few weeks for me and I fell behind on my toy reviews. But fear not, my vagina has stories to tell of all the toys I have tried recently. First up is this delightful glass candy cane I sweetened up my vagina with.

It was so nice of Dr. Dildo to send me a gift package right before Christmas of fun things to play with. The first one that caught my eye was the candy cane shaped one. I remember when I was working in a sex store and we got this toy in stock I was a little perplexed. At first I didn’t understand why someone would want to buy that thing. Well I proved myself wrong when it came down to toy testing time.

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I really love glass toys, but they are not for everyone. Some people can get over how hard they are and think they are uncomfortable. I am part of the population that likes a hard toy. They are really great for g spot stimulation since you can put a lot of pressure on the area. Glass is also so sleek and smooth it just glides in and out and feels great. Since glass in non-porous it is hypoallergenic and won’t harbor any bacteria. Great for someone who is sensitive to certain toy materials. You can even boil it or put it in the dishwasher to sanitize and clean. So simple.

I got a fantastic idea when it was time to test the toy. I came up with idea of trying to DP myself with the candy cane. I looked at the curve in the toy and figured it was worth the try, hey at least it would be fun trying. So I lubed up the candy cane and began my adventure. I used the long end to penetrate my vagina and was planning on the short end going in my booty. I was so close to getting it in! Unfortunately the curve in the candy cane was greater than the distance between my vagina and butt. DP fail. But I still had fun trying.

The toy still did feel great in my vagina and in my butt too. It is a great size if you are just starting out with anal play. I like to use it now to warm up my booty before anal sex. It gives really great stimulation back there. Plus you can use either end of the toy. It’s 7 inches long, which is a good size for an internal toy. I definitely have a lot of fun with this sweet treat.

Even though the holiday season is over you should keep this in mind for next year. You could even keep it out for decoration. I think I will do that next year. I would love being able to tell a person what is was when they saw it in my house.


Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Rim Around The Booty

Blowjobs are so much fun to give. I really do enjoy giving them. I am rather good too, I even teach a class. (Email me for details if you want to hire me) But there is so much more to the blowjob then just the penis. There are a lot of other great areas back there, and sometimes women or men aren’t ready for the adventure back there. But I tell you, it’s one hell of a ride.

Rimming is the act of licking, sucking and kissing the anal area. Yes I am talking about sticking your tongue in your man’s booty. You might be thinking that is something you would never do, but you should.

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I was the same way in the beginning. I did not want to go back there. My ex asked me to a few times but I refused, that ass wipe didn’t deserve it. But the more I worked in the industry and did my blogging, I got comfortable with it and thought why not, could be fun.

I had only done it on one guy before my now boyfriend, and that’s because he asked me. I figured I would do it for a few minutes and then continue with the blowjob. But I noticed how much he loved my tongue and lips on his taint and butt, it was intriguing.

Cut to present day boyfriend, Brian Street Team. He was somewhat apprehensive about me going back there at first. I didn’t do it right away; you kind of work yourself up to that. First you get the balls in your mouth, which they love. You can mix the ball sucking with some taint action, which is a good middle ground to start.

You want to treat the taint like a clit; this is if you have ever been down on a girl. (Been there, done that) Lick, kiss and suck on it. There are so many nerve endings there people don’t even think about. And not just on guys but girls too. Once you have tackled the taint you have almost won. When the guy gets relaxed enough you then move down south. I get on up in there. I push his legs open and dive in. Get his legs really wide so you can really work it down there.

I love doing this mainly because I know how much he loves it. Hearing his moans of pleasure is such a turn on for me. Gets me so freaking horny I can’t stand it. I get a lady boner every time I do it.

Now when I say I get on up in there, I really mean it. I need to come up for air every once in a while because my face is just smashed into his butt. The more he moans the deeper my tongue gets. I’m so turned on even just talking about it right now.

Now if you want to take rimming a little further you can always add a finger up the butt. Make sure you let him know before you put it in there. Also make sure you have some lubrication going on to help it slide in. This is so you can massage the prostate, which is a very pleasurable spot on a guy.

I think the reason I love rimming is because it gives me more of a variety with going down on him. Plus I love knowing how much pleasure it gives him. So ladies don’t be afraid of going into your man’s booty for a good time. I love it and get off on it and so should you. And remember, rimming isn’t only just for guys…..


Tuesday, January 25, 2011

Cool Parents

I remember the day I told my mother I wanted to work in the adult industry. I was still at school at Emerson College and my TV/Video degree was about to take a different path. I told my mom I wanted to work in production for adult films. She looked at me for a moment and then asked, “Are you going to be in these films?” I said no and she was fine with it. How could she not be? We always talked about sex growing up and she showed me my first erotic film. My dad was perfectly fine with it too. They loved me and trusted me to do what would make me happy.

Over the years as I got more and more into the industry I kept hitting them up with a few surprises. Now I think they are used to all my antics. First there was putting myself out in the world as a sex blogger. Then the big one was telling them I was going to start modeling nude. I of course told my mom, I don’t want to keep anything from her. She called me the day of my shoot and asked if I was naked yet. My dad found out from my site and called me about it. We talked about it and he was eventually ok with it.

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My boyfriend is in the same situation. His parents know about his hobby, which is performing in porn. He doesn’t throw it in their faces and they don’t talk about it much but they know. My parents know about what he does too. I had interviewed him for my site so when we started dating they already knew about him.

The main point of this is how glad I am that my parents are really proud of me. I love the way they handle it. They accept me and my thoughts and what I want to do with my life. They know that I’m not putting myself in danger and am truly happy with my life.

I think one of the main reasons they can overlook the "content" of my life is seeing how happy I am. After the death of my brother my parents just wanted us to be happy and stopped worrying about what brought that happiness. Plus they know how stoked my brother would have been with my job at Zero.

I really am lucky with my parents and how they support me. While they may not be totally happy or agree with everything I do they still love me and support me. I know so many people in this industry where they are scared to tell their families, or their families know and they have disowned them. They don’t understand and want nothing to do with them. Which is really sad and I feel bad for those people.

I would never want to do anything that would make my family disown me. Thankfully I can push the boundaries with them more than most people can. I think I have shocked them as much as I will. I joke with my mom saying I’m going to do scenes with my boyfriend and she freaks a little. They do draw the line there which is fine with me. Just the other day I surprised my mother telling her an interview and seminude photo of me was going to be in a magazine. She was fine with it, and she will buy the magazine when it comes out, she is good like that.

In the end I thank my parents for trusting me to make good decisions and always supporting me in what I do. Hell even my grandmother knows and she is cool with it. So thank you family for loving me even though I’m naked on the internet, work in the porn industry, talk about my sex life on my own website and date a porn star. You really are the greatest and I love you dearly and would never trade you in for anyone else. I promise to not shock you with anything else...well for now anyway.