Dear Lucy Vonne,
Lucy, Hi, I have a very long question/comment, possible dilemma that maybe yo can help me with. I'm a 38 year old male, in good shape, good looking, and still have all my hair :) I lost my virginity at 13 to another much more sexually experienced 13 year old girl. I played doctor with more then three different girls on my block growing up and got caught "experimenting" with another girl when we were 9.
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There are a few things I can lend you my knowledge on. First there is really nothing wrong with not being satisfied with one person. Monogamy isn't for everyone these days. A lot of people live the polygamist lifestyle and have many healthy relationships. But it is very important to make sure all parties are aware of what is going on. Therefore no one gets hurt in the end. You may find many women who feel the same way you do and are ok with the lifestyle.
I don't know the average amount of times a man jerks off. I'm sure it is different for ever man as it is with women. It ranges from never to multiple times a day. Hell I masturbate everyday, sometimes a few times a day. But even I can get over sexed and can/need to go a few days with out it and I'm not sure you can. There is nothing wrong with some self loving though.
Here's what bothers me though. When you mention you want to concentrate on other things at times other then sex. This makes it sound you cannot control your thoughts about it. When sex starts to interfere with your daily life and thoughts and you can't control it then there usually is a problem. When it starts to hurt you and/or your loved ones in more ways then one that's not good. There is nothing wrong with watching lots of porn having lots of safe sex. But with your situation I think there might be a little too much going on. I think you do have a sex addiction if you cannot go with out it. Try going a day or two with out doing anything sexual. If it is a real struggle to get through there is an issue there you need help with. Let me know how it goes. But as long as your sex drive is healthy to your lifestyle then keep doing what you are doing.
I would keep talking to a therapist about this and how you handle your thoughts and urges. Yes I do think someone can get over sexed and have too much of it. But like I said before it's really only a bad thing when it interferes with ones life and in a bad and damaging way. So just look out for your health and the feelings of others in terms of your actions. Don't be afraid to ask for help, no one is perfect.